Tuesday, May 05, 2015

I don't like Mothers Day this year

I don't want Mothers Day to come. Does that sound bad? Everywhere I turn something is saying "Remember your Mom". It's on the radio, on TV, in the grocery store, and I can't get away from it. Fathers Day doesn't feel like this. Maybe it's because I'm a mother or maybe it's because I talked to my mom more often then my dad, (I was close to my dad but not as close as I was to my mom) maybe it's because I can focus on my husband on Father's Day. I don't know why. But I don't think I like Mother's Day, at least not this year. I'm not trying to be negative or get sympathy. I'm trying to be real. I'm trying to be transparent and vulnerable. I want people to know that sometimes my life sucks! It really sucks! I'm not going to go into each and everyone of my struggles, some are very personal, and a lot worse than being sad on Mother's Day. However, I want people to know I don't have a perfect life because I'm hoping they can see me lean on God in spite of my troubles. I'm going to fail at times, I'm NOT perfect, quite the contrary! But, God is my refuge and I'm learning how to take comfort in Him.

 I love the verses in Ephesians 6:13-18, about putting on the armor of God, but, I've never really thought much about the verses before that. Verses 11 and 12 say, "Put on the full armor of God, so that you'll be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places." NASB. I'm really starting to see darkness trying to take over my life and I'm not going to let it. 

Luke 10:19 says, "Behold, I have given you authority to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing will injure you." ESV. 

I'm not going to like Mothers Day this year but, I'm going to love on my babies anyway. I'm going to make the best of it because I know I can tread on all the power of the enemy and nothing will injure me. 

Happy Mothers Day in Heaven Mom! Give Micah's new baby boy, up there with you, an extra squeeze for me! 

Friday, February 06, 2015

Madison's birth story.

As I was starting to plan Madison's first birthday party I realized that I still need to tell about her birth storyl! 
Here it is, all the boring and exciting details that I can remember:
On March 16 (2014 of course) we were hoping baby Madison would come the next day, on St. Patrick's Day! I called my doctor to see what he thought about inducing me. (I was 5 days late, normally I am against inducing, but you know how it gets when you're waiting and waiting for your baby... I had already walked miles and miles the previous days.) He called the hospital and found out that the delivery room was already pretty full, and we would probably need to wait until tomorrow to start the inducing process. He called in a prescription of Cytotec for me to take orally. (I was induced with JD, at 10 days late, with Cytotec on my cervix. Also, I had taken Cytotec oraly with Elliott, 8 days late, to get my contractions going after I started labor.) On March 17 I took the first dose of Cytotec at 5 AM and the second at 9 AM. We were so sure that we would have a baby this day! I walked and walked and walked all over the house! It was such a windy day I didn't want to go outside and walk but I did a little bit. My friend Jessica Kenning came over expecting that we would all be going to the hospital soon. She was one of my Labor coping methods ;). She had learned all the pressure points and everything! I was not progressing very much so I texted Dr. Shappard back-and-forth trying to decide if I needed another dose or not. I took the third dose at 4 PM. If I was walking the contractions were two minutes apart, all afternoon, they were not lasting long and not very strong. If I sat down they were 5 to 10 or so minutes apart. I almost took the fourth dose at 10 PM but the contractions got stronger. We all went to bed hoping for rest. I was so tired. I was up a lot in the night but the contractions were not too painful yet. (I was so so anxious and worried when I went to bed. I called Dr. Shepherd in the night because I was starting to really shake and I was not able to control it. He said it was from the medication. Jesse helped me calm down and I was able to get a little rest.) 

At 6:30 AM on the 18th I heard JD jump out of bed and come to our room. He said he threw up! (JD was okay. He had bumped his head pretty hard the night before. I think that's why he threw up.) I sat up and had a contraction. The moment I stood up I felt my water break. I went to clean up JDs bed and then went to the bathroom to make sure it really broke. Sure enough my water had broke! Jessica Kenning came back over at about 7:30 or eight. I sat on the couch and when I would have a contraction Jessica rubbed some pressure points on my feet (and shoulders). My mom had done the same thing when I was laboring with Elliott. We talked to our Dr. again and told him that we needed to go to the hospital. Stef and Aunt Carolyn got here at 8:30 to nine-ish. Aunt Carolyn stayed with JD and Elliott (David and Melody were out of town). 

Jesse, Jess, and I left for the hospital in the Durango. Stef and Jianna were in Stefanie's car. We got to the hospital about 9:15ish. I'm guessing it took about 10 minutes to get there. Jesse got us there really quickly. My contractions were not too bad but I was so worried and almost anxious that they would get unbearable. I told Jesse that I might want an epidural, but he kept telling me I could do it. He knew that I'd really wanted to do another natural birth. My friend Jenny Fagan got there at about 10 AM-ish with a Tens Unit and a cloth for hip squeezes. (Info on tens unit http://www.babycentre.co.uk/a542581/tensand a long piece of cloth to do double Hip squeezes (http://naturallifemom.com/2012/05/the-double-hip-squeeze-comfort-during-labor/). 
Man, those things were amazing! Jianna, Stefanie, Jessica, and Jenny took turns rubbing a pressure point on my foot, pulling the two ends of the cloth for hip squeezes (it took 2 people to do that!), and pushing down on the back of my hips. I had pretty bad back labor and it helped when someone was pushing down on the back of my hips. I really had my own personal team helping me out! Those methods helped me so much, I would recommend them to anyone! Poor Jesse, no one would let him do anything. And I really just needed him to stay at my head and give me comfort. 

The nurse check me when I first came in, at 9:15ish, and I was dilated to a three and 60 or 70% thinned. She checked me again, maybe around 11:30, and I was dilated to seven and almost all the way thinned. I think that was when they called our Dr.. I remember that I felt like I might want to push soon. Jesse texted Dr. Shappard at 11:40 saying that I wanted to push. 

Just before this nurses and people kept coming in to try to get an IV in me. I have some pretty tough veins or something because it's always been hard for me to get my blood drawn. There must've been two or three people that had to poke me and they couldn't get anything. They called some expert guy to come in and do it, and he didn't even get it the first time. I was too busy laboring to remember how many pokes I had, I think 4-5 times total (I has some amazing bruises after all that), it sure was annoying! They finally got an IV and left me alone. 

At 12:09 we got to hold our sweet Madison Angela! She was 7lbs 14oz and 20 1/2 inches long. She was posterior (hence the back labor pain) and the cord was wrapped around her neck. She had a lot of long dark hair and dark blue eyes!

I actually kept the text messages, from my doctor, so that I could remember all this better. Here are the messages (you can skip this part if it's boring to you ;) this is mostly for me in like 5 years when I want to remember)

March 16, 2014, 6:32pm (we were headed home from a really really really long walk in our new neighborhood when I sent him this message)
Me: Hey! It's Jessica. What are your thoughts on inducing tonight or tomorrow? :)
Dr: U read my mind.  Can I call u in 5 minutes ?
Me:Sounds good 

March 17, 2014, 8:05am
Me: I took 1/4 of the pill at 5am, then went back to bed. Nothing yet.  
Dr: What strength is the pill?  200 mcg?
Me: Yes

Dr: K.  Text me at 9 with an update.  Thx!  It'll happen...
Me: Ok :) thanks 

Me: Not much happening ;( maybe more Braxton hicks but nothing like contractions....
Dr: K. Take another quarter tab.  
Me: Ok 

Dr: How goes it?

Me: Too good :) Every once in a while I'll have a tiny contraction... I tried to take a nap and I think it made things slow down. :(
Dr: So no pattern?
Me: No :(
Dr: Would u say ur more campy?
Me: Yes. 

Dr: Don't re dose yet. Text me about 130 please.  Cool?
Me: Ok!

Me: Ok so I'm pacing around my house and making Jesse keep track of when I get crampy. They are just like teeny tiny sharp contractions that are on average 2 minutes apart. 

Dr: Go walk for an hour & see what happens.  Don't want to overdo it. K?

Me: Sounds good :)

3:00 pm
Dr: Are they spacing out or increasing in intensity?
Me: They are 2-3 minutes apart. A little more in intensity, not a ton. I do feel like walking helps But boy am I tired of walking! 馃榿
Dr: K.  Can't re dose the medication until they space out.... If they space out.  Be in touch.  Let's see where it goes...
Me: Ok is it alright if I take a break from walking ?

Dr: Take a break

Me: Getting a little discouraged. They are getting a little stronger but since I have not been walking as much the last hour they are about 6-10 minutes apart. Anything I should be doing?

Dr: Dose it again..

Dr: Cool?
Me: Just took it! :)

Dr: I think we're on the brink...
Me: Oh good! :)

Dr: How are u?
Me: Still good. They are stronger but about 10 minutes or more apart. 
Not terribly strong though :(
Dr: Have u rested?
Me: Yeah. I just rested for half an hour or so. Just got up a couple min ago. 
Dr: If u were at the hospital it still would have taken this long.  Ugh.  Hang in there.  We r nudging your cervix along!  ;)
Me: Ok :) should we go to bed like normal? We usually go to bed 10 ish. Or should I try to walk around more. 
Dr: Text me at 9 & we'll decide on another dose, but yes, plan on bed at 10ish.  This is ripening your cervix - sorry it's taking so long.
Me: I'm just glad to hear it's doing something :) feels like it's not doing much. 
Dr: I think we'll probably dose it at 9 & then let y'all sleep & reassess in the morning,
Me: Ok. 

Me: Alright so they are 5-6 minutes apart. A bit stronger and more uncomfortable. 

Dr: Interesting. Have u dosed the medication?
Me: No. The last 2 were 9 and 8 minutes apart. 

Dr: Hmm. What do u think?  

Me: Ug! I'm not sure. I'm pretty tired right now and want to sleep, but I also want a baby. :S 
Dr: If they r 7-9 minutes apart at 10, u could dose again & go to bed. Keep in touch.
Me: Ok will do. Thank you!

Me: Ok going to bed. I didn't take the dose because they are 4-5 minutes apart and about 30 seconds long.  
Dr: U r getting the hang of it!  Ha.  Rest.  Text me if things gets "for real"
Me: Ok!

Me: I'm sorry if your sleeping! I'm shaking a lot. Like I'm cold but I'm not. The contractions are farther apart but stronger.  Still 30 ish seconds apart 

Dr: It's the medicine - no worries.  Try to get rest. 

March 18, 2014, 7:08am
Me: My water broke at 6:30. Contractions are 10 min apart lasting about a minute
Dr: Perfect.  Let it build a bit before going in.  Did u sleep?
Me: Ok. Not a lot. Mostly from like 4:30 to 6:30
Dr: Is the water clear?
Me: Pinkish
Dr: Cool 
U can eat some breakfast.  Nothing too heavy though.  It could still be later today before we have a baby.
Me: Ok. 
Dr: use 
(I think that "use" was a typo, I can't remember though)

Dr: I'll call u in 20 min or so & we can chat

Dr: Contracting more?
Me: Yes

Jesse: She is wanting to go to the hospital 

(Dr. Called Jesse and said to go in)

Jesse: Checked in, Jess is doing good but really sore, contractions are getting worse. 

Jesse: She was asking for Epidural.... Something she has never wanted. But she wanted me to tell you. 

Dr: Nurse updated me.  I think it's fine.  Her call.  The cervix exam is changed from last Friday - hang in there.  Ill be by over lunch.

Jesse: K she wants to push but she only a 7. 
Dr: Epidural?
Jesse: There coming fast now
The nurse is going to contact you

Dr: I'm on my way now.  

Dr: Try to help her breate thru & not push yet

Dr:  5 minutes

Jesse: She thinks she coming

Dr: 2 minutes
Jesse:She wants to push

Dr: 60 seconds

(I was trying so hard to wait for our dr. and I did it!! Madison was born at 12:09pm on our drs lunch break!! I think he said he only had to miss 1 or 2 patients in his office. Haha!). 

Dr: Nice work!!!  Wow.  Didn't think I was going to make it.

Dr: How goes it?
Me: Great!! :)
Dr: I'll be in after 10 tomorrow morning
Me: Ok sounds good!

Well that is the story of how our Madison was born! I cannot believe how fast a year goes! I really missed my parents being here to see her when she was born and to see my kids and Jianna growing. I have so much comfort from the knowledge that they are in the presence of our God! And maybe... Just maybe... they can see a little I what's going on around here :) 

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

40 Weeks with #3

So before I post the blog about Madison's birth (cause I have sooo much time to do that... not!) I need to post the last pictures I took. 40 weeks with #3! These were taken on my due date 3/11/14

Our baby: 40 Weeks

Your baby's the size of a jackfruit!
In month nine, the average fetus is about 6.2 to 9.2 pounds and measures about 18.9 to 20.19 inches (wow!). But you really won't know exactly how big your baby is until his birth.

Couldn't exactly find a jackfruit so we had to do without this time. These pictures were kinda rushed and the quality is not good... But its probably better than no pictues.

our baby at 40 weeks
  • He's continuing to grow hair and nails.
  • And she's keeping up that lung development, too.

  pregnancy symptoms at 40 weeks

Friday, February 07, 2014

34 Weeks with #3

I have given up trying to get these posted on time... I'm 35 weeks right now, but these pictures are from 34 weeks. :)

Our baby: 34 Weeks

Your baby's the size of a butternut squash!
At less than two months to go, she weighs in at about 4.2 pounds to 5.8 pounds and measures about 17.2 to 18.7 inches. 
your baby at 34 weeks

  • She's recognizing and reacting to simple songs, if you're singing them. (If you're not, start! She may find them soothing after birth.)
  • She's also urinating about a pint a day.

  pregnancy symptoms at 34 weeks

I didn't get any pictures with my kiddos and the squash this week :( I kinda was in a hurry and forgot.

Check out my pregnancy blog from when I was 35 Weeks with Elliott!

Friday, January 24, 2014

New home for the Davolts!!

More than 2 years ago we started looking for a new house. We were pregnant with Elliott and needed more room. Since then our needs have changed a lot! We are going from a family of 4 to a family of 6 with the new baby and my sister living with us. Well, we finally found a home that fits our needs!! I'm so excited about it! Jianna and JD will have their own room, Elliott and Madison will share. I'll give you a mini tour with pictures but we would LOVE for you to come see us and our new home!!

 This is the front of the house and the side of the garage. 

This is the garage. Duh!

Our front door!

This is how it looks with the front door open. To the right you see the stairs and to the left is the living room, straight ahead you see JD, the breakfast table area (to the left of the breakfast table is the kitchen but you can't see that), JD is sitting in the entry to the sun room. 

The living room is to the left of the front door. I'm showing how it steps down. Be careful as you come in, the first time I came in the house I tripped here!

This is the living room! It will be the formal area where we visit with people and have small group with our Church family. 

If you walk to the end of the living room and turn right you will see our formal dining room. To the right there is a doorway that goes into the kitchen. 

Pretend you just walked through the front door and passed by the living room. This view of the kitchen is right after the living room. I am hoping we can eventually move the cupboards that are hanging there, to the opposite wall, next to the breakfast table area. I would like the kitchen to be opened up a little more. 

On the other side of the kitchen is the sunroom. There is Elliott and her play kitchen! You would walk out this door to get to the patio and the playhouse. 

Speaking of playhouse... Here it is! It even has a second level!

Alright, that was the main level to the house!! Now let's go upstairs!!

This is the view at the top of the stairs. To the left you can see a little bit if yellow, that's JDs room. Straight ahead is Elliott and Madison's room. To the right is the master bedroom. To the back right is the kids bathroom. 

The kids bathroom. 

This is JD's room! I had to get pictures of all the colorful walls!

This is Elliott and Madison's room!

Now let's head to the master. 

I'm likening the floors! Not liking or licking, definitely not licking! 

This is a view of the closets and the bathroom. 

Heading into the bathroom. 

(Creepy Jianna shadow!)

That is the top floor. Let's go down stairs now. The green wall you see is Jianna's room. To the left is the family room to the right is the laundry, bathroom, and exit to the garage.  

This is the laundry room and exit to the garage. It's not a huge laundry room but I'm crazy excited to not have the laundry room in my kitchen!! Jiannas bathroom is to the right. 

Jiannas bathroom. 

Jiannas bedroom, chalk wall and everything!!

The last room we have to look at is the family room. Jesse seems to think this is going to be his man cave... We will see...

Thanks for taking the tour with me! Hope I didn't drive you crazy with strange descriptions of where everything is at. We really hope you can come by some time and see it for your self!!